Settling in life redefined

What do we need in life really? Most of us think its money that we need. But actually why we really need it? We need to be "Happy" by fulfilling our desires and as most of our desires are materialistic we go after money which can earn them. In a long run we forget what we really want and go blindly after money or the job we pursue.

The point is "Everyone wants to be happy and want it indefinitely no matter what happens". This is the actual state in life where you cal yourself settled. But now we use the term for various states like "Got married" ,"Bought house( Even if he is a debtor for 30 year )" ,"Bought a car" and so on. But if we analyse clearly all these spoil our happiness and make us more fragile.

Then how can i settle ?
To be settled is to be in happy regardless of  what happens around us.This state is an state of mind and any imbalance can be corrected only by mind. First this must be understood. Currently happiness is a effect of actions and this has to be the other way around. We must stay happy and do things out of this happiness.
Sounds simple ? Nooooooo. This is the ultimate state. We must cross various phases to come here.
Her are the stages this could  work .
Phase 1 : Realize what you really want in life and observe what are the situations in which you are not happy and identify the cause. Here things will happen around you , you will conceive the things, react emotionally and act.
Phase 2 : Be aware of your emotions and actions. Try to be happy regard less of your actions.
Here things will happen around you , you will conceive the things, react emotionally and but don't act if it may not cause happiness.
Phase 3 : Here things will happen around you , you will conceive the things, react won't emotionally( in a negative way) and don't act if it may not cause happiness.

At the end of phase 1 you should start living a simple life and declutter your life so the things that affect you are minimized. Also analyse you body and see what are the problems you have and correct it by natural means. At start of phase 2 you can start meditating clear you mind for all the  prejudices.

These are not guidelines just one of the what it could possible work. The ultimate goal is happiness.

A day without spectacles

I have a short sight with a power of 4+ . I would be always with glasses so i was very much dependent on the same. Through lots of reading i came across that our eye cell do regenerate in specified span of time.  So if the eye had become defective due to deficiency and over stress then during a period of time if we supply nutrition and avoid stressing of the eye and believe that t the eye has a capability of healing itself there is a possibility that it could be cured. Now i wanted to check how dependent i was no my spects. Also its that we use two aspects in creating vision sense +imagination . If our eye i poor u have do the imagination more.

Yesterday i conducted the test. The mission was to not use the spects through out the day and manage to visit a place near by ( a place i have not visited).. Morning i did the cooking and all my work without glasses. This was bit east as i did not need to read much o the test. I checked my mails in the iPod and my laptop screen was a bit blurred. Then i started out my journey in a world. I began to notice that all the signs and the boards was a bit  blurred and i was able to enjoy the sun and the nature. The signals lights were clear and ( must have been designed that way .And i went to the station. Now i bought my tickets and searched for the train. The display board was hard to see. It was tempting to wear my glasses and but i  was determined not wear it. Then i when to the information center and asked about the train details and they guided me to the plat form. I wanted to cross check with the display at the platform but the board was a  blurred but i was able to recognize the words.

I was re collection the sight that was happening during my journey to the station. All the things , the people, all were blurred and the distraction was less. I had to process less so saved energy energy.The trains stops were marked with large boards so a was able to read and u maintained the stop count. Finally i reached the stop and got to the tram. My stop was the last so need not count the stops now. The train  halted at the last stop and i used the maps in the phone yo find the way. I enjoyed the company of  my friends there and returned home. Then i went to the super market. It was nice. I just bought what i really wanted and others were just  blurred and i did not over shop ;).  The the day successfully ended without my spects ;)
Its was so nice to see that how my eye adopted to the situation actually most of the time the spect is not required and can be avoided. I staring to have the habit to  not wear the  spects for long time. Will see of my eye is able to heal it self .I tried to type the whole write up without spects and i managed it :D ( Had to stare closer at  teh scree for corrections) .

The pleasure of gardening

Gardening  gives me a pleasure of being with a good company. Growing vegetables and common spices  comes handy. I enjoy when growing the plants. It feels good when the plants grow and yield fruits / vegetables. It feel nice to be with the plants. Now i can research about talking to plants and music influence on plants. [ To be continued]

7 chakras and Maslow's hierarchy of needs

Maslow's hierarchy of needs was proposed by Abraham Maslow in 1943 describing the stages of growth in humans. This is used in management science and psychology. The same with far more advanced development stages has been proposed way back in  11th century AD as 7 Chakras . The relation between the two theories are depicted in the below diagram.
Source: Wikipedia-Chakra,Wikipedia-Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs

How to get over when your worried

Worries are part of our life. We often worry and get into depression and feel helpless.Yesterday I was worried and did not know the exact reason I was worried ;). Did not know how to get over it. I tried few things to get over it. 1) Share : Tell to someone how u feel and you would get some clarity on what is the actual reason you are worried and sharing helps reducing your worries. 2) Fast : When you are worried you are most likely that you are not hungry. Worry and hunger do not go together. So when you are worried just fast untill you are extremely hungry. When you are hungry you are no longer worried and now eat well. 3) Sleep : When worried often you don't get sleep. But it is important to just lye down and run over your thoughts. Rest for 8 hours and the hours you slept deeply in this period is not important. The above steps helped me get over my unknown worry. And I'm happy now :)

Principles and Values

 Principles and Values drives our  life. I thought of sharing my principles and values that i have acquired from my well wishers[ Including me ;) ].

• If you love some one express it
• Never spend just because you have money
• Spend any amount for food
• Never reject a gift
• No one is bad in this world it's all about perception
• Don't try to change people's character after an age
• Don't tell bad about anyone let them learn them self
• Don't worry about things that are not in your control
• Understand what you learn you don't have to memorize
• Never indulge in drinking or smoking
• Don't have a habit that you cannot stop

Don't give room for hate

Hate is a strong feeling that blocks you from all the happiness around. There could be many things that you have in life like people,jobs, habits,music and movies etc. Hating some thing is bad if that degrades you.For example if you hate a person, all the actions of the person irritates you and you get disturbed. There is saying in Tamil which translates roughly to "No one can do harm or good to you except yourself".  We let the other person control our emotions and importantly that person has no value in your perception. If you hate someone you can forgive them and you will feel much better. All hatred is not bad, is good if it is beneficial to you. Some people hate "Smoking" or a "Food that is allergic" that' good them. Hating less gives you more room for enjoying life. You may also read Tolerance and Understanding.