The point is "Everyone wants to be happy and want it indefinitely no matter what happens". This is the actual state in life where you cal yourself settled. But now we use the term for various states like "Got married" ,"Bought house( Even if he is a debtor for 30 year )" ,"Bought a car" and so on. But if we analyse clearly all these spoil our happiness and make us more fragile.
Then how can i settle ?
To be settled is to be in happy regardless of what happens around us.This state is an state of mind and any imbalance can be corrected only by mind. First this must be understood. Currently happiness is a effect of actions and this has to be the other way around. We must stay happy and do things out of this happiness.
Sounds simple ? Nooooooo. This is the ultimate state. We must cross various phases to come here.
Her are the stages this could work .
Phase 1 : Realize what you really want in life and observe what are the situations in which you are not happy and identify the cause. Here things will happen around you , you will conceive the things, react emotionally and act.
Phase 2 : Be aware of your emotions and actions. Try to be happy regard less of your actions.
Here things will happen around you , you will conceive the things, react emotionally and but don't act if it may not cause happiness.
Phase 3 : Here things will happen around you , you will conceive the things, react won't emotionally( in a negative way) and don't act if it may not cause happiness.
At the end of phase 1 you should start living a simple life and declutter your life so the things that affect you are minimized. Also analyse you body and see what are the problems you have and correct it by natural means. At start of phase 2 you can start meditating clear you mind for all the prejudices.
These are not guidelines just one of the what it could possible work. The ultimate goal is happiness.
