Knowing how much you can eat and saying no to excess food

It was always a difficult task for me to judge how much i can eat. Due to this while eating i take food in small increments. For many years i have had troubles eating this way. I used to start eating fast and then it slows down and the slowest is when i am not able to eat any more but some food is left in my plate.
It was hard for me to say no when people out of love/concern serve excessive food as i was lean.

Then my friend helped me saying "No" and not to feel embarrassed about it. Also not to worry if food is left in my plate. If you can't eat just stop eating. This step helped me a lot. I was more comfortable while eating as i did not have to finish the entire plate.

Just a year before i had a watched a video about eating habits. In it they described that it good to eat when you are full of hunger rather the just eating on time even thought you don't feel hungry. Many of us may have even forgotten how it feels like to be hungry. Also another key thought that at you first burp while eating you can stop eating. The burp indicates the opening of the stomach to large intestine and the food is on the way to next processing. Usually we over eat and burden our stomach. Due to this  our stomach gets weak and also we don't get enough nutrition and energy. Basically this lowers your
efficiency of conversion of food into energy.

So if you are not sure how much you should eat stop at the first burp. Offcouse some times food is so delicious you want to eat upto you neck . Occationally this is fine.Over practive you will know how much you can consume so it digests at  great efficiency and live healthy.

You do not have to believe any this of this. You can just try and feel the difference.

Ego or True self

"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift"- Albert Einstein

There is this inner voice that is continuously steering us. Some say that you need to follow the inner voice to succeed. But often we are misled as this voice is distorted by the noise by the ego. Some time the inner instinct or the true self as some call it is never heard. If you want to be more non judgmental,non attached and blissful you can listen to your inner voice. There are few ways to identify and instinct from the ego.

 Ego is the survival instinct. Its is formed basically how others think of you. Is is the cause of the preservation of identity. Ego feeds on anxiety ,fear, jealous ,judgement, attachment and resistance. You need to take control over you ego to avoid the state of being helpless.
 Ego vs True self Ego

Ego	True self
Interfere with free will and take control	Not interfere with free will
A sense of fear and urgency is in the message	No fear is involved and a calmness prevails
An discouragement is attached	Its inspiring and empowering
An worth is attached ( This is better or less)	No worth is attached
Manifests as compelling needs	Manifests as inspiring desires
seeks pleasure and avoids pain	Accepts pain and pleasure as the same

You cannot fight the ego. You can just be aware of your ego. Once aware it just starts to fade.You need to practice stillness of you mind.Let go,  be separate, fight to be superior  as these are all ego.Ego feed of need and focus of lack. It convinces you are not enough. Your achievements and the mistakes are just experiences  Learn to be in the present. Ego is usually the future or the past.Be mindful of what you are doing.This will make you more happy and content.

References :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hpte6gGyVcc